How to Make a Friendship Last Forever

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Six years ago (June 2010), we were freshies who were excited to explore the new world of high school. We were all classmates, and though we knew each other’s names and faces, we were never really that close. I even remember that my first impressions of them were “feeler,” “feeler,” and “too corny.” HAHAHA. And what’s funny is that they also didn’t like me too back then! During freshman year, we were frenemies. Yes, we were friends, but we also secretly hated each other due to petty reasons like “Inaagaw niya yung friends ko,” or “Bakit lagi na lang siya yung kasama ninyo,” or “Di ko lang talaga siya ka-vibes.” Grabe, sobrang high school ng mga problema!

Fast forward to our last months during our senior year, we became inseparable. We loved spending time with each other, whether we were doing group works together, eating lunch together, or just simply making endless kwentos at the corridors or the school parking lot. We knew that our high school journey was about to end, so we wanted to make the most out of it before we go our different ways. It’s so crazy to think how a person that you didn’t initially like suddenly becomes the best friend that you can’t live without.

Fast forward to today, we are now all juniors in different colleges who have only seen each other less than ten times last year. I hate how we don’t get to spend as much time together as before, but what I love is how when we do see each other, it’s like nothing changed. They’re still my best friends who I can have deep talks with in the middle of the night, who I can laugh with until my stomach hurts, and most importantly, who I can completely be myself with. Our friendship is a kind of friendship that is hard to find, but luckily, six years ago, I found them and they found me.

So I thought it would be nice to share with you what you can do to make your friendship stronger and maybe even last forever (or at least try!). So here goes:

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  1. The first thing to note is that you cannot force friendships. You won’t find true friendship by acting like Regina George and choosing Cady Heron to be part of your clique just because she’s pretty. Most of the time, the best friendships are those that you never even see coming. Just like in our group, we all didn’t like each other at first but somehow, after spending years of being together, you just become inseparable and when you’re not together, you miss each other every single day. So if you’re trying to find friends that will be with you until the end, don’t force it. Just let it naturally evolve first.

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2. It can take years before you can truly become “best friends.” Did you know that it takes 3 years before you can completely know a person? So don’t rush things just because you don’t have a so-called “best friend” or “barkada” yet. Again, just let things happen naturally.

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3. It takes a lot of effort. If you have already found your group of friends, good for you! However, know that you won’t always be together 24/7. So if you want to keep the friendship, you have to put in a lot of effort. Ask them if they’re free to hang out on the weekend, chat them up online about what’s going on in their life nowadays, or call them just to let them know that you miss them terribly. Just like in any other relationship, communication is always the key.

BONUS TIP: REPLY! If a friend starts a conversation, magreply ka gurl! Baka mamaya effort nga nang effort si friend, pero ikaw naman yung hindi nag-eeffort back. Kahit sino, nasasaktan sa seenzone or sa 24 hours bago ka magreply sa text or chat. Huwag makampante na kahit hindi mo siya kausapin ay walang magbabago sa inyo, kasi may hangganan lahat ng tao. (GRABE DEEP!) So if you want someone in your life, let them know that you want them in your life. Don’t ever be the reason why your friendship is doomed to fail.

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4. It takes a lot of patience and understanding too. Now that we’re in different colleges, it’s definitely harder to find time to hang out in person. We don’t have the same schedules and we also don’t have the same circle of college friends. So if you ask them to hang out with you and they’re not available, you have to understand them. Just because they say no doesn’t necessarily mean that they don’t want to be with you. Trust me, they really miss you but just like you, they also have to meet their own school deadlines and they need to make time for their loved ones too. Huwag magtampo agad. Pero kung nagtampo ka nga, tell them so that it won’t blow up to become a bigger issue. The less unspoken issues inside your head, the happier you’ll be!

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5. Get a “Burn Book.” Remember how in Mean Girls they have this notebook that only the four of them are allowed to write in and see? Well, get one for your barkada too! But DON’T write mean things about other people. Instead, write down all the good memories you had with each other. Put pictures and polaroids of the unforgettable times you had together. Paste all the tickets of movies you have seen together. And to make it more fun, list down all the things that you want to do together aka a “Best Friend Bucketlist!” So that one day when you all have your own jobs and your own families, you will still be able to look back on all the memorable moments you and your best friends shared throughout the years.

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6. Let go and let each other grow. There came a point in my life wherein I realized that we can’t be the same four girls in high school anymore. Back then, I would spend all the time in school with them, and whenever I got home, I would chat with them online as if we never really left each other’s side. And when I would go to bed, I’d sleep with a happy heart because I had a good day with them, and I know that I would spend the next day with them too. Being in the same high school made it so easy for us to be with each other.

But now, I only see them during birthdays or summer or the holidays. I don’t talk to them every single day anymore, and I don’t always know how they’re doing, which sucks, but it’s all a part of growing up. Remember this: the best thing about true friendship is that you can grow separately, without ever growing apart. 

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And last but not the least, always be grateful that you found your best friends.

So to Ilka, Kim, and Carrie, I am forever thankful to the Lord that I found you. I am so lucky to meet 3, out of the 7 billion people in this world, who I can call my best friends. Or should I say TF’s? 😛 I miss you, always, and I love you, four-ever! 😉

xo, moira ❤

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Best Tip to Survive College!

Back when I was a freshie, I was excited to learn new things from my professors for I knew that they were the best of the best in the country (at least in my opinion). It’s already a given that they will teach you the subject, provide lectures, make you take exams (ugh) and what not, but my favorite thing that I always look forward to with them is when they randomly “make kwento” or tell us about any of their life experiences. Aside from it letting the class hours go by without the professor noticing (LOL), what I like about it is that it gives the students a chance to be taught life lessons which can be useful for us in the near future.

Out of all the life lessons I learned from them, one will always stand out to me. My Math 11 prof was the one who said it randomly in his class, and he basically just gave us the greatest tip ever on how to survive college. He said something like this:

“If you want to survive college, don’t do your best. Because, like the song says, sometimes you do your best but your best is not enough. Instead, do what is necessary.”

Now, we may all have different interpretations for it, but mine is this: When we focus on doing our best, sometimes, we tend to stress ourselves out more than we should. You don’t always have to push yourself to the limit because you might reach your breaking point over a small thing. Sure, put your heart into something, but never forget to take your brain with you. Instead of focusing on doing your best, focus on doing the task that is required. Baka kasi mapangunahan ka ng takot na di mo magawa best mo, kesa na sana, ginawa mo na kaagad yung task without overthinking it, para di ka na na-sstress, diba? This kind of thinking can really make your college life a lot lighter, so don’t stress out!

Well, that was just a tip on surviving college. However, thriving in college? I will never be exactly sure.

xo, moira ❤

What to Wear with Denim Overalls

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Wearing denim overalls can be tricky, especially for someone petite like me. They came back in style around a year or two ago, and I have always been afraid to try this trend. Why? Because if I wear it, it will not make me look stylish, but rather, it will make me look like a freaking seven year old. haha! BUT I think I found a trick to *at least* prevent that from happening. Because let’s face it, even without the jumper, I would still look like a kid because of my height anyway hahaha! Okay, enough with the jokes. Here’s the trick: Wear your denim overalls with a blouse or a crop top, and not a shirt. This will add a bit of maturity to the look, and it lets you have a different take  on the normal shirt and jumper trend.

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I love how this outfit made me feel like a real life Barbie doll! My cousin even told me that I dressed as if I was Donnalyn Bartolome HAHAHA.

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I wore a white bandana headband to add some flair and achieve a really girly look. And let’s be real, accessories really do complete an outfit! It’s not always about the clothes. Sometimes, it can be about your accessories.

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This outfit actually also reminded me of Verniece Enciso, a fashion blogger who is a girly girl just like me! Also, I did a blog post previously which featured this same jumper, but I had a different take on it. To see and read more about that, click here: The First Fitting

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Top from Kurumi, Jumper from Fudge Rock, Shoes from Converse

I have around one week left of school and I am sooo excited to be done with it! And right when the school year finishes, I will be attending #YTFFManila2016 and I seriously can’t wait anymore! I still need to win tickets though, so I can bring my best friend, who I haven’t seen since January, along with me. I miss her so much. 😦 Wish me luck?

xo, moira ❤

How to Throw a Debut

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In the Philippines, when a girl reaches the age of 18, it is considered to be a momentous point in her life. This is when the “baby turns into a lady,” as she is now legal and free. To celebrate this occasion, there is a traditional party which she can throw and it is called a debut. It is basically a coming-of-age party wherein all her closest friends and family are gathered together to celebrate her womanhood or something like that.

I had my own debut around four months ago, and I learned that it was no easy task to throw one. I searched the internet countless times to find pegs and inspirations so that I can incorporate them to my party. However, I noticed that there weren’t a lot of guides or tips on how to throw a debut, so right now, that is what I am going to write about.

Here is a guide on how to throw your own successful debut!

  1. Decide EARLY OR AS SOON AS POSSIBLE if you really want to have a debut or not. Ideally, you should already make this decision at least a year before you turn 18. This is because when you book a venue for your party, the rule is always first come, first serve. And if you cram to the last minute, it will be a lot more difficult for you to find the perfect setting that you want. And not just that, for you will most probably be hiring suppliers or what not, and some may not accept the job if they know they lack the time. I know that there are also some girls out there who don’t find the need to throw a debut, because let’s be real, it does costs a fortune. And they always say that the money used for the party could have been used for something more worthwhile, like shopping or travelling. But from my point of view, a debut only happens ONCE in your lifetime. On the other hand, travelling the world is something you can do at any point in your life. Well, that’s just my opinion. At the end of the day, it is still your life, your rules, your decisions. But if ever you realize that you actually want to have a debut, please decide early! 🙂
  2. Pick a theme. The more specific, the better. If you have a more specific theme, it will be easier to put fun and appropriate details on invites, the program, the stage, and the whole event itself! Make sure that the theme you choose really speaks to you and is something that you really like. Why not throw a Wicked themed party and dress in a gown like Glinda’s? Or maybe have a Cinderella themed one, and refer to your 18 Roses as your 18 Prince Charming’s? Go for something even as crazy as Harry Potter, or The Hunger Games, or why not even Adventure Time? Your guests will surely not forget your debut because it will be super unique and different from all the other ones they have already attended.
  3. Find pegs and save them to your phone! The internet is full of pictures to take inspiration from, and this will definitely make it easier for you to envision the party that you would like to have. Share them with your parents so that they also know the look that you want to go for.
  4. Check Instagram to find people/businesses/companies that you can hire for your special day! I think I found most of the people we hired on Instagram, because their accounts on that app also stands as their portfolio, and you will be able to see how they work and what their final products look like. I swear, there are A LOT of business men and women on IG, and one click is all it takes to find what you are looking for for your debut. Here’s a checklist of the list of people you may opt to hire.
    1. Fashion Designer
    2. Designer for Invitations
    3. Event Coordinator
    4. Event Stylist
    5. Host/s
    6. Souvenirs
    7. Cake
    8. Photographer and Videographer
    9. Hair and Makeup Artist
    10. Or just find a company that can do ALL of these things! I’m sure there are some businesses out there who can cover most, if not all, of these for you.
  5. Event styling makes all the difference. At first, I thought that I can be the one to style my own debut, since I can come up with creative ideas sometimes. But what I didn’t realize is the amount of work it will actually take, as in buying numerous supplies and doing construction work, to make my dream debut come to life. We ended up hiring an event styling company instead, and they really impressed me with their design and I really loved the look of my party! However, I must warn you that to be able to hire such companies, you must be willing to pay a huge amount. But don’t worry, the money will all be worth it because they will for sure do a splendid job!
  6. Be careful in throwing a black and white party. I think this is the trend nowadays, and from my experience, the guests won’t really follow this. Most of them will just dress in black, because it can flatter any type of body. So then, your party might turn into just a black party. haha! Just be mindful of that. Oh, and don’t forget that one relative who still won’t follow the dress code. I swear every party has one, and I find it so funny hahaha!
  7. Two dresses are really all you need. The first one is the traditional ball gown for the program proper and the second one is the party dress for the after party, so that you can move more freely. If you’re tight on budget, you can even just wear a gown that can convert to a dress! You’ll be able to hit two birds with one stone.
  8. Ask some guests to perform during the party, or maybe even perform yourself. To keep the spirit alive during the event, ask some of your talented family members or friends to perform a song or dance number. If you can sing or dance yourself, why not perform too? The guests will surely love and enjoy it!
  9. Ask people who can’t come to your party to send greeting videos instead, so that it can be played during the event. This goes for relatives or friends who are living in a different country. Also, why not add in some birthday greetings from your favorite celebrities? If you know anyone who works in show business, don’t be shy to ask them that favor! In my experience, I was lucky enough to get greetings from my celeb crushes like James Reid and Andre Paras, since my ninong worked in the world of showbiz. It’s something you can look back at and smile like crazy at when you’re older! 🙂
  10. Prepare a trivia game about yourself and give away some prizes. This is a popular way to break the ice and also have some fun! I’m pretty sure your guests know you well enough to answer the questions you come up with.
  11. Prepare a playlist for songs to be played during 18 Roses, the dinner, and the after party. You can even ask help from family and friends if you are not up to date with the latest music. Just be sure that you personally like those songs too. Here are a few song suggestions for your 18 Roses. 🙂
    1. Can I Have This Dance – HSM 3
    2. I See the Light – Tangled
    3. Thinking Out Loud – Ed Sheeran
    4. You and Me – Lifehouse
    5. I’ll Be – Edwin McCain
    6. You and I – John Legend
  12. ENJOY! Even if planning a debut is stressful, once the day for the party comes, RELAX! This is literally your time to be happy and be excited. THIS IS YOUR DAY! Don’t let the slightest negativity ruin it. Just be cool, smile, and enjoy every minute of your debut! ❤

For more debut pegs or inspirations, check out my previous posts!

#MoiraIs18: Debut Highlights

#MoiraIs18: My Debutante Gown

#MoiraIs18: Predebut Shoot

 

xo, moira ❤

What to Wear to a Summer Trip

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It’s finally summer time here in the Philippines, and let me tell you, IT IS SO FREAKIN’ HOT! I mean, I know I live in a tropical country but during this time of the year, it just gets really hotter than normal (even if the room is air conditioned!). But on the bright side (literally? haha), my titas decided to take us out to go swimming! I was so excited because one, it was the first time we would be going swimming with my two year old cousin and two, I can finally do something to beat the scorching heat! Prior to this outing, I decided to make a blog post on tips on what to wear to a summer outing, since I bet a lot of people will be going to resorts or a beach real soon. 🙂

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Tip # 1: Wear your swimsuit underneath your clothes already. So that when you arrive at the resort or what not, you would not have to take a long and hard time to change clothes inside the restroom. You could just simply take them off and jump straight into the pool! Woohoo!

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Tip # 2: If you don’t want to be basic by wearing just a regular shirt and shorts, wear an off shoulder top instead! Tops like this are very versatile and can be worn at a semi-formal event or even at the beach during summer vacation. Plus, the top of your swimsuit can be seen, which can add to the whole summer vibes of the outfit. Pair your off shoulder top with high waisted shorts for a more stylish look.

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Tip # 3: Wear your flip flops already so that you won’t need to change shoes anymore. It’s also nice if you can find something like this which still look like sandals, and not just your regular tsinelas or slippers. hehe

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Tip # 4: Don’t wear too many accessories. I suggest to leave your earrings, bracelets, and rings at home because it’s just such a hassle to take them off before swimming, and they can even get lost since they are small in size. The only accessories you need are sunglasses (or a hat) to beat the heat of the sun, and a hair tie, so that you can put your hair up if you feel like it.

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Tip # 5: WEAR LOTS OF SUNSCREEN AND HAVE FUN!

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Top: Pop Culture, Shorts: Fudge Rock, Slippers: a store in Sagada haha, Shades: Penshoppe

This week hasn’t even started but I want to finish it already so that I can fast forward to Holy Week break 😦 I hope that I’ll be able to go on more outings like this in the next months, pero huwag naman sana umitim! hahaha!

Let’s all have a fruitful and blessed week ahead!

xo, moira ❤